Cooked
Some “nikkas just don’t deserve”…
Insecure men irritate my whole soul. They hide their insecurity behind the women that they drive crazy and that irks me because it always takes the attention off of them when a woman is crashing out over them. It’s a few situations playing out on social media that I can use as a reference but the Cooking with Kya scenario feels less draining to speak on. Tongues are tussling because she found the lane she’s supposed to be in…she has an adorable face…she’s bawdied down…personality is giving…and she can cook. Gasp. I’ve watched a few of her YT shorts and it looks like the way she responds to aggressive disrespect is by being femininely disrespectful…which is agitating the initiators. I love that. I want to pretend like I have no idea why anyone watching her content would go as far as trying to jump her over their hurt feelings but…I’m very familiar with how females…and feminine males…move when you invoke their sense of inferiority. Fortunately for her…it looks like she had a decent maternal figure in her life that taught her how to deal with the bothereds. What’s wild is…if she wasn’t getting so much attention from the boyfriends of the girls who are so bothered by her…none of them would care how she’s presenting herself. Eyes rolled.
The attention she’s receiving is deserved…but some of it is coming from the kind of insecure men who thrive off of planting more seeds of insecurity in their significant others. Which is why no one will ever get me to believe that there is anything worse than an insecure man. Because I know from experience how far they’ll go to break down the confidence of the woman they chose to be with…if that woman ever hints at the belief that she has worth. My last ex had this thing where he’d get on socials just so he could let me hear the sound of another woman’s voice coming from his phone. Atp…pretending like I don’t have the ability to be irrational feels like a waste of time…so I’ll be honest and say I took every opportunity he gave me to…react irrationally. Looking back, I can see this was his way of getting the kind of reaction out of me that would validate how I felt about him though. Most men, who attract unhealed women, are usually too unhealed to vocalize what they need…so they become passive aggressive. Pitting one woman against another is usually how they passively get what they need…and 9/10 it leaves the woman looking goofy.
When you aren’t taught how to love yourself…you grow up and attract men who look for any opportunity to remind you that you aren’t good enough. I know the bothereds weren’t shown how to love themselves because they weren’t even shown how to cook for themselves. Which means they were raised by a mother like mine…who failed to pass down the art of how to woman…to her daughter. I honestly feel like a mom not teaching her daughter how to cook should be considered as some form of child abuse. Because most of these women have some idea of how to throw a meal together. But their envy has them failing to pass what they know down to a daughter that has the potential to attract the kind of man she is no longer able to get. Instead they pass down their animosity for women who threaten them, to the next generation. Kya reinforces the insecurity of these women…the same way these women reinforced it to the females who raised them. And the insecure men their toxicity ends up attracting…are the only ones who benefit from this f*ckery. Ugh…ugh.
Love,
Choosy
