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These thoughts were triggered by listening to common sense…

I watched the attempted deletion of Cam Newton’s ego on his most recent interview with Dr. Bryant and I walked away with so many thoughts. The first one was my belief that after 38 years of living…I finally think I found a woman that I can look up to. I never heard of Dr. Bryant before I watched the interview but afterwards I felt like I was looking at the emotionally balanced version of myself that I’m working towards. While listening to her talk…all I could think about was advice given by the late “image consultant”, to thousands of impressionable minds, that pretty much said men should stay away from Psych majors. When I initially heard this suggestion, I knew it was because people who study human behavior…can call out human behavior. And most men…and women…don’t like being called out. This…was painfully obvious judging from Cam’s responses. I don’t know this to be true but it looked like he’s never had anyone tell him the truth his entire life…and if they did…a woman didn’t deliver this information.

He hit on all the talking down points that most men, deeply invested in a socially acceptable image, hit on…with women. I think some of his words were meant to stir up insecurity in the Doc but he was speaking to a woman who has done her shadow work…so his responses just looked like he was throwing a tamed temper tantrum. Every time he spoke, I wondered how many uncomfortably honest conversations he’s had with his mother…that didn’t result in his ego being stroked because it doesn’t look like he’s able to pretend to entertain the truth any other way. Then I felt like I was being given insight into the dynamic that exists between his parents which helped me come to my own understanding of why his words suggest that he has respect for us but his actions tell a different story. I know he can only do what a woman allows him to but what he’s choosing to allow himself to do after being given the green light speaks volumes.

I took a lot from that interview but what stuck out the most was the illogical sentiments that come from men seeking commitment…who ask for exactly what they want…without acknowledging that their relationship requests are completely self-serving. Cam, like the men I’ve dealt with in the past, seems to want to be chased…once they choose a mate. I honestly don’t believe a woman or a man should ever be chased…a healthy relationship should be. I can understand the desire to feel desired by your significant other but it feels like certain men have become comfortable residing in the feminine energy of requiring the women they desire to hunt them. And they usually dangle the carrot…of a couple carats…in order to have their desires to be hunted met. The whole concept is confusing because it puts them in direct opposition to their genetic make-up…while forcing the woman to assume masculine traits. Which is a slippery slope because once the gender roles have been established in a union…it’s almost impossible to reverse.

All that interview did was showcase why most men who aren’t emotionally aware…stay far away from emotionally intelligent women. The masks they wear become see through…and if you haven’t done any healing work…you will walk away with your brokenness revealed to you…so that you can heal.

Love,

Choosy